hey guys! as you may know, i am heading to st. george tomorrow morning for my best friend’s bachelorette party. kristen and i have been friends since the seventh grade. she was my maid of honor at my wedding in 2010.
she was SO helpful throughout my whole wedding planning process. i could not have asked for a more perfect maid of honor. she pays such close attention to detail and really made my wedding planning and wedding day the best!
kristen is a big inspiration to me! in case you missed it, make sure you check out her guest post on her experience with jamie eason’s livefit trainer. you can read that post to get to know her a bit more. she really is the bees knees.
it is a huge honor to be kristen’s maid of honor (haha) for her wedding this june. i have never ever been even a bridesmaid, let alone a maid of honor, and i have to say it’s been a big concern to do all my duties and make everything seamless and perfect for her big day as well as the weeks leading up to it. i am super excited for this weekend and to spend four days in the sun having fun with kristen and our girlfriends!
i have a guest post today on how to be a great bridesmaid. these tips have definitely helped me in remembering everything the position entails! i hope you enjoy reading it!
Many women excitedly accept the role of being a bridesmaid for their friend or family member’s wedding, without realizing the large responsibility that comes along with assuming the position. So, we’ve taken the liberty of laying out the facts for you potential or current bridesmaids in order for you to know what lies ahead, as well as tips to being a fabulous bridesmaid.
The tasks often assigned to bridesmaids can be quite extensive. Almost always, they can be expected to accompany the bride while wedding dress shopping and fittings; if not all of the bridesmaids, most likely the maid of honor at least! Preparing invitations is a large task that can be made rather enjoyable by making a night out of it. Gather the girls, a good bottle of wine (or two…) and play some music. Assign one or two with beautiful penmanship to writing the addresses if they aren’t being printed or written by a calligrapher. Another one or two girls should handle stuffing the envelopes, while others apply the stamps and separate into A- and B-list invitees. If the bride is creating gift baskets for out-of-town guests’ hotel rooms, bridesmaids will often be asked to help with their assembly—complete with a welcome letter, important contact information, snacks, brochures for local attractions, and maps of the area. Similarly, brides handling their own favors, whatever they may be, often ask their bridesmaids for assistance.
The larger planning responsibilities that bridesmaids assume include the bridal shower and bachelorette party. These events are essentially planned the same way a wedding is, just on a lesser scale, which is still no easy feat. Bridesmaids (if not done by the mother of the bride) will need to handle the guest list, invitations and RSVPs, design and décor of whichever venue, as well as coordination of the bridal shower. This is a major financial responsibility, as well as devotion of time, that bridesmaids must be aware of. The bachelorette party is very similar, yet even more extensive. Bachelorette parties are often destination events that span over at least one night, if not an entire weekend. That means the girls will not only need to coordinate, but also pay for airfare and hotel accommodations in the area in addition to the cost of activities, accessories (i.e. props or matching attire), food and drink, and ground transportation. Planning these related events could cause drama and tension amongst the bridesmaids, so be make sure you keep your ego and temper in check!
If bridesmaids are not from the area, they are usually responsible for the cost of travel and wedding weekend accommodations as well. As far as their attire, bridesmaids must also purchase their dresses, shoes, and jewelry—all out of pocket. Thankfully, brides offer monetary relief in the form of hair and makeup, if opting to have it all done professionally. Lastly, the bridesmaids also will need to buy a wedding gift, just like the other guests, which is another cost.
So, when agreeing to be a bridesmaid, it’s important to understand your role. Though much time and money will be invested, it is an honorary position that also has its perks. In order to make the most of your “bridesmaidship” and be the most awesome bridesmaid ever, follow these secrets for success:
- Make it a point to get to know your fellow bridesmaids!
- Deem the maid of honor the group “leader” and subsequently, the main point of contact and source of all information.
- If drama starts brewing, nip it in the bud. Maintain a transparent, respectful, and collaborative environment amongst the bridal party.
- Be responsive and proactive–get things done as soon as they’re brought to your attention. For example, when the bride gives you a date for the dress deposit, get the money to the maid of honor or bride directly before that date. Being on top of tasks helps to avoid setbacks and unnecessary stress, which ultimately leads to Bridezillas.
- Another way to avoid stress and anxiety on the part of the bride is to often derail her attention from the wedding planning by doing things completely fun and unrelated—grab drinks, go out!
- Be on top of post-party tasks like collecting the cake topper, toasting flutes, and any décor that was left behind.
- Pack the couple a bag of essentials for the honeymoon, just in case they forget!
- Before the couple returns from their trip, stock their fridge at home—there’s nothing worse than returning to a food-free fridge
Brides, don’t forget to show your friends gratitude for all their hard work and devotion – being flexible about their budgets and time restraints will undoubtedly be appreciated, as will a cute bridesmaid gift for your ladies.
1. Have you ever been a bridesmaid? Any tips or stories to share?
2. Married ladies: what was one of the best, most appreciated things your bridesmaid(s) did for you for your own wedding experience?