three tip thursday [4].

by Janetha on April 12, 2012

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hey guys! didn’t post yesterday because i was busy living. and napping.

i worked eight hours and then came home, had two bowls of cereal, rice cakes with cottage cheese, and half a banana with peanut butter (carb loading, perhaps?) and had big plans to go to the gym.

and then i fell asleep for two hours. in my gym clothes. halfway through my nap, marshall pulled my vibrams off my feet and threw my favorite houndstooth blanket over me. love that boy.

i woke up at 8pm and i had a concert to go to around 10pm. i still had to make dinner (greek salads!) so i nixed the gym completely.

guess what else i nixed? blogging.  and i couldn’t be happier about it. earlier in the day on wednesday i was wondering how i was going to squeeze writing a blog post into my evening, but then i read this post from katy. and, instead of spending an hour+ on writing a post “just because i post every day,” i wrote nothing at all.

nobody told me i had to post every night. blogging is not my job, it is my hobby. while i enjoy blogging each evening, it is by no means an obligation. that’s just silly. and kiiinda stupid, right? right. so if you are ever in the same boat and feel like you have to post just because it’s what you are used to doing, go read katy’s post. you’ll change your mind AND you will have more time on your hands.

speaking of time, i need more of it. i am going crazy with various life things and so i am turning the time over to another guest for some fabulous tips!

ttt

super stoked for this week’s guest.. MOMMA B!

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momma b and her girls the night before my wedding.

i love my mom! i am so excited she agreed to give her three tips today. enjoy!

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I’m more than honored and excited that my sweet Janetha asked me to provide this week’s 3 Tip Thursday (I may also be a wee bit nervous!)

As most of you know, I am slightly older than most readers here and I’m not about to apologize for it! In fact it’s because of Janetha and her ability to keep me motivated that I am in better shape physically and mentally today than I was 25 years ago.

Being able to look back on a large portion of my life, I am able to reflect on some tips I learned from my mom and have hopefully been able to pass on to my children. They never knew my mom – she died quickly from cancer when I was 21 and she was a very young 50 – she was my best friend. I like to think that they know her through me because of the way I live!!

Tip 1: Be Nice

I am nice because of my mom – she taught me to “kill others with kindness!” It is a fun challenge when I encounter that surly or crabby person. Whether at a restaurant, the mall or a run-in with the occasional “snippy” realtor, I like to strike up a conversation or simply make small talk, or better yet compliment them on their shirt, hair, etc. Try it! Watch their eyes light up – you will have made their day. Added bonus…I guarantee you will feel better too!

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My beautiful mom!

Tip 2: Be Honest

It only took me lying to my mom once to know I had really screwed up! The disappointment in her tone of voice and the look in her eyes spoke volumes – not to mention she made ME tell my dad about the lying episode. I was terrified to tell dad (insert possible yelling, grounding and of course fear of disappointing him too!) but to my surprise he spoke calmly, talked about trust, responsibility and honesty. That lesson has stayed with me for 45 years – I remember it like it was yesterday. Yes, he did ground me from my weekend activities! ;)

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My cute parents!

Tip 3: Love Unconditionally

We are all different whether it is our looks, personality, characteristics, beliefs (religion – or not, politics – or not), eating, language, habits, the choices we make.. the list could go on and on. I try to love others in spite of their differences (maybe even because of their differences!) Some may make poor choices with terrible consequences. The most important lesson here is to love the person. Always, always, always love the person. We may be disappointed or angry with their choices and sad about the consequences. But the love they feel will be forever remembered when the choices and consequences are but a fleeting memory.

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Our happy family!

There you go – 3 tips from Momma B! It is fun to share a glimpse of my life with you here on Janetha’s blog. One of the greatest compliments I have received from my husband (Papa Randall) was when he told me “You have become your mother!” She was a wonderful mom and friend she sure crammed a lot of teaching into the 21 short years we had together!! Hug someone you love really, really tight today. :)

xo. Momma B.

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Paige @ Running Around Normal April 13, 2012 at 10:45 am

Thanks for liking Katy’s post! I kind felt like that yesterday afternoon. I was like, wow it’s 3 and I haven’t blogged. Better blog! But it ended up being a light-hearted blog topic that only took me about 20 minutes anyway.
But still! I get it.

Kait April 13, 2012 at 11:01 am

This is a beautiful post! Thanks Janetha and Momma B. :) I love the photos and the love that shines through. :)

Re: not posting. I’m the queen of it (clearly) and addressed it in my Thursday post too. It happens…and we still adore you. <3

Jess @ Blonde Ponytail April 13, 2012 at 11:15 am

Thanks for including Momma B’s words of wisdom. She’s got it figured out. Kindness is the way to go. As a somewhat new follower, I am really loving your blog J! And, I agree with Katy’s post–such a good reminder!

Emily @ Glitz Glam Granola April 13, 2012 at 12:01 pm

Good for you for taking the night off from blogging! Sounds like you really needed that sleep and had a busy night ahead of you! I think sometimes we do put pressure on ourselves to blog, but the best posts are the ones that require no forcing. Love the tips from your Mom and the pictures of your beautiful Grandma.

rachel c April 13, 2012 at 12:22 pm

Is anyone else having trouble with mealsandmoves when viewing on their computer? I am commenting from my phone because everytime I get on the site, my computer freezes up..and I have tried on several different computers (home, work, friends comps) to make sure it was not just my computer. I miss viewing the blog. :(

janetha April 13, 2012 at 1:01 pm

Hey Rachel! I haven’t had anyone with these complaints and I checked from multiple computers and there is no glitch.. I am sorry I don’t know what to tell you!

Kate April 13, 2012 at 1:07 pm

Great tips Momma B! Love it!

natasha April 13, 2012 at 3:02 pm

Janetha is so lucky to have you as a mom and we are so lucky to have you in the blog world!

I so LOVE my mom too and learned tons from her especially #3. I also love to “kill” people with kindness especially when I drive. If someone honks at me for going to slowly or something I always smile and wave…maybe they are just honking to say “hi”, right? Ha…road rage more like it!

I also firmly believe in not judging a person lest ye be judged and I certainly am full of faults but deep down I”m pretty sure I”m a decent person…or so I tell myself (:

momma b. April 13, 2012 at 3:17 pm

Hey Natasha
I’d say you are a pretty decent person especially if you can handle “road rage” with such love and care!!

Jen! April 13, 2012 at 6:17 pm

I was so stoked to read Momma B’s tips! So simple, so universal, so wise. I am reminded of my mother when I read this because she is the most lovely person I know and I would not be as strong as I am today without her. Thanks for the tips, Momma B. Made me think about my own lovely Mama Bing (as we all affectionately call her). :)

Susan April 14, 2012 at 7:01 am

I love this!! I think following these tips will not only make your life easier, but make for a happier and more well adjusted person. I think being told I’m like my mother would be a huge compliment too. She’s got her quirks, but she’s still the strongest and wisest woman I know!

Jessica Corbin April 21, 2012 at 3:59 pm

Wow! I love reading your words, Momma B! I sure wish I had a mother even close to you as she has made some poor decisions :( My heart aches everyday, but I know its best we are apart for now until she gets healthier. You have a wonderful family, Janetha is sure a lucky daughter. Much love!

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