three tip thursday [1].

by Janetha on March 22, 2012

in tips


back in the day, i used to do a little feature called “guest post thursday” where i featured guest posts from blog friends. this was because i was a busy girl, planning a wedding, and by the time thursday rolled around, i needed a break from blogging so i could catch up on life. these days, i am finding myself super busy again! that’s not a bad thing, i am happy to be busy. no, not planning another wedding (despite the utah stereotype).. just living life.

instead of bringing back guest post thursday, i wanted to put a more specific spin on things when i hand my platform over to blog friends. because i am a sucker for helpful hints, i decided to ask people to send in three of their best tips. i try to offer you all tips that i have, but other people have tips that i cannot provide. i love the idea of sharing others’ knowledge here on meals & moves!


i don’t want to limit this tip feature to only food and fitness tips. there is so much more to life than that, so i decided ANYTHING goes on three tip thursday.  i explained this to my first tipper, kait, and she definitely explored an area that i have never really blogged about. she asked if it could get sexual. i was caught off guard because usually kait is giving me great tips about yoga, digestion, or juicing, but i know we’re all adults here, so i told her to go ahead and sex it up! just take that as fair warning.. when you scroll down there are some photos y’all may not want everyone to see.. so watch your back.

with that said, i am excited to introduce my first installment of three tip thursday. hopefully you will all enjoy learning new tidbits of info that everyone has to offer. oh, and i can’t wait to see what search terms lead to this post… ha!

here’s kait.


Hi all! I’m honored to be the first blogger of Janetha’s new series. My name is Kait and I’m the foodie, researcher, and sexpert behind yoga/beauty/life. I’m celebrating a Week of Passion at my blog and wanted to carry the theme over here and give you all a little somethin’ different!

As a Sensuality Coach & Educator, I help women enhance the relationships in their life (including with themselves) by empowering them with the knowledge and tools to own their sensual self. I offer both Passion Parties (think Tupperware parties except they’ve got the burp and we’ve got the buzz) and DIVA sessions where I counsel women one-on-one.

Enough about me…lets heat things up for you with three sexy tips!

Tip #1: Playing Safely with Toys 

If you own or are thinking about buying an adult toy, these products ensure safe +fun play time.

  1. Toy cleanser to protect both you + your toy. The vagina has a balance of good and bad bacteria. By altering that balance, you heighten your risk of infection. To properly clean a toy, use a product designed for that purpose.* Things such as soap, Lysol, hand sanitizer, and the dish washer (yes I’ve heard all of these!) strip your toy of its protective layer and cause it to break down sooner than necessary. When we make an investment in our pleasure, we want the highest return possible! *silicon & glass toys are excluded from this rule
  2. Lube to make toy time safer + more pleasurable. Lube’s purpose is to decrease friction, lessening the risk of tears (in the vaginal lining or condom) and infection. Most “OTC” lubes were not designed for sex and therefore fail at this job. For example, KY was created for surgical purposes and breaks down with friction.Lube from direct sales companies, on the other hand, was designed with the body in mind. It is pH-balanced and made with non-irritating ingredients (KY has honey…see Tip2). Lube also enhances sensation…aka everything feels better! Seriously, run your finger across your lip while its dry. Then lick your lips and do it again. Uh huh.

Tip #2: Edible Delights

Edible products can liven up your routine and are perfect for those who don’t love natural tastes. Not all edible products are made equal though. Specifically, some are vagina-and-booty-friendly and some aren’t. What distinguishes the two? The presence of sugar and/or sugar alcohols.

Rule of thumb: you never (ever) want sugah in your bowl. <—- said like the Bostonian I’m not.

If an edible has either of these ingredients, don’t let them near your intimate areas! Yes, this includes food. That being said, you don’t need to necessarily tell your partner this little fact. “It’s on 4 areas honey” <—lie, its only on 3. S/he goes licking and looking and licking and looking and well…you get it.

This also means that such edibles should be completely licked off male partners before penetration. I don’t hear any males complaining on this one. And you won’t be either since that penis just got turned into a popsicle with a stroke or two. Green jolly rancher, vanilla frosting or cotton candy anyone?

Tip #3: Passion Pantry Staples clip_image005

Regardless of how much experience you have (or not) with adult products, the following are the building blocks of any Passion Pantry. You might be surprised by what you see.

  • Pure Instinct Perfume: Chock full of pheromones, this perfume helps you get more of the attention you seek, whether it’s on the job (think: more tips), in the store, or in the bedroom.
  • Diva Basics Set: Shift your mind from work to pleasure with pheromone-packed, spa-quality bath and body products that leave your skin irresistibly touchable. All are paraben-free.
  • Super Deluxe Smitten: Part loofah, part massager! Make shower-time unforgettable and massages, idiot-proof. On your feet all day? Flip it inside out and slip your tootsies in. Ahh…
  • Soy Seduction Candle: Fill the air with a pheromone-packed scent or drizzle the melted, lukewarm-but-definitely-not-hot wax on your partner’s back for a warming, relaxing massage
  • His & Hers Edibles (D’Lickous + Candy-licious). Sexy time never tasted so sweet.
  • Pure Satisfaction: Intensify every touch. Leads to increased arousal, orgasm frequency, and orgasm intensity. Or just puts a spring in your step when you add it to your daily routine. ;)
  • Lube: UltraGlide for my folks who are super sensitive down below; Slick Stik for those who want the crème de la crème.
  • Toy Cleanser: See above!
  • Bullet Vibrator: The most versatile vibrator ever! Use it for clitoral stimulation, external anal stimulation, against the cheek during oral sex, etc, etc, etc

Ready to take it up a notch?

  • Monte Carlo: X marks the (G-)spot! Whisper quiet but super powerful…flexible enough to get between partners during intercourse…and ridiculously simple to use. :)
  • We-Vibe III: Sharing is caring! The ultimate solo or couples vibe that allows you both to benefit from vibrations while giving the wearer dual stimulation and pleasure!
  • Mimi (for those with a male partner): For those nights you aren’t feeling it, for when he travels, and, most importantly, so you never have to swallow again.

As a last minute decision, I decided to host a giveaway for a pantry staple on my Facebook page today! Head over to Passion By Kait to enter.

As I say to my clients…I hope you blushed a bit, learned a little, and laughed a lot. Thank you to Janetha for letting me share my Passion and to you all for holding a safe space for me. <—yea, the hippie had to come out just once.

Have more questions? Interested in learning more about my services? E-mail me to set up your complimentary 15-minute session. Liked what you read? Get daily updates, discounts, and giveaway by joining my Facebook community.


Kait xo

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Lindsay @ Lindsay's List March 22, 2012 at 6:23 pm

Oh, Kait! You speak my language!! Isn’t sex FUN!!! (great post, J!)

Kait March 22, 2012 at 6:27 pm

YES! Fun to have…fun to talk about…fun to teach others about…you know. ;)

lindsay March 22, 2012 at 7:00 pm

i just knew Lindsay was all over this post! ha, love it!

Kait March 22, 2012 at 7:03 pm

Bahaha Well if you need a sexpert/Passion Diva…you totally know where to find me. ;)

Christine @ Oatmeal in my Bowl March 22, 2012 at 7:16 pm

haha. *thumbs up* Sex is Fun. ;)

Lauren March 22, 2012 at 6:49 pm

Amen for this post! :)

Kait March 22, 2012 at 7:08 pm

Thanks Lauren! I was a little nervous putting this up so comments like this are SO appreciated!

Olivia March 22, 2012 at 6:55 pm

I admit I’m kinda blushing – but I love seeing this on blogs! Breakin’ boundaries over here :)

Kait March 22, 2012 at 7:10 pm

Thanks Olivia! And blushing is 100% allowed…its not necessarily about TRYING everything so much as being open to trying SOMETHING new. IMO, having the right knowledge is the first step in that openness. :)

chelsey @ clean eating chelsey March 22, 2012 at 6:59 pm

OMG – I think I’m blushing. hahah!

Kait March 22, 2012 at 7:07 pm

Aren’t you trying to have a baby? ;) On that note: a lot of the products here will actually hinder your efforts (I’m really hoping someone told you this but not totally banking on it) so be careful with what you are using. Let me know if you have any questions.

chelsey @ clean eating chelsey March 22, 2012 at 7:09 pm

I’ve actually read a lot about how a lot of products like lubricants/etc. can mess with sperm – so we’ve been making sure we’re taking all precautions in that area – just not in others! ;)

Kait March 23, 2012 at 11:48 am

Good for you…lots of people don’t educate which is well why I do what I do. :)

Christine @ Oatmeal in my Bowl March 22, 2012 at 7:12 pm

Haha! What a way to start 3 tip Thursday…. I totally agree on the edibles. but I find only trial and error solves finding the perfect edible. ;)

Kait March 23, 2012 at 11:49 am

Tehehe yes, yes it does.

meg March 22, 2012 at 7:34 pm

I think my husband might start reading blogs! Great tips! ;)

Emily March 22, 2012 at 8:03 pm

About frickin’ time someone starts talking about sex! So not taboo, so fun!

Kait March 26, 2012 at 2:14 pm

Woo! Thanks love. :)

Cyndie March 22, 2012 at 8:36 pm

AWESOME guest post. This was a great idea.

I definitely clean my sex toys with just hand soap. oops. but a couple of them ARE glass…

I also only buy lube from the grocery store cuz it’s cheap, but it SUCKS.

Kait March 23, 2012 at 11:51 am

Its a super common mistake, especially when we just buy something without any instructions. I look at it as…you wouldn’t clean your contacts or your computer with just any old soap so you shouldn’t do your toys either! And girlfriend our lube will change your life…so my clients tell me. ;)

maria @ so she ran March 22, 2012 at 8:51 pm

Love this post–I hate when people are awkward and bashful about sex. :)

Kait March 26, 2012 at 2:13 pm

Thanks for your kind words. As for awkwardness & bashfulness – there’s none of that here!

Emily March 22, 2012 at 8:53 pm

I fully support this post and the idea of sexual empowerment for women and liberation on all these topics. However, I cannot bring myself to read through it because I am, and probably always will be, a total prude. I envy you empowered ladies and your courage to talk frankly :)

Kait March 23, 2012 at 11:52 am

Hi Emily – I’d love to chat more with you as many of my clients are shy (at first and sometimes always) either because of how they were raised or just their personalities. Feel free to e-mail me at passionbykait{at}gmail{dot}com so we can set something up. I promise to start out like every good date should: slowly. :)

Miranda @ Biting Life March 22, 2012 at 10:48 pm

Love this post! It’s awesome to see this stuff on blogs. There should be more of it! Thanks for all the great tips :)

Kait March 23, 2012 at 11:53 am

I did a whole week of posts like this on my blog love so if you want more, head on over!

melissanibbles March 23, 2012 at 3:11 am

I LOVE THIS POST!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Kait March 23, 2012 at 11:54 am

Thanks Melissa…so glad you enjoyed it!

Kendra March 23, 2012 at 6:00 am

great post. vital part of healthy living that otherwise seems neglected in the blog world. thank you!

Kait March 23, 2012 at 11:56 am

#workingonit! I also have a list of other great sex-positive sites on my blogroll if you are interested in exploring it more. They aren’t common but they’re there!

Sierra March 23, 2012 at 6:54 am

Way to start off the Series with a bang. haha

Lauren @ Oatmeal after Spinning March 23, 2012 at 8:07 am

Ha! One of my best friends works for Pure Romance so I’m always hearing about the toys. Honestly- I think stuff like that scares my husband! :)

Kait March 23, 2012 at 11:58 am

Haha so you totally get how my mind works right?! ;)

Life's a Bowl March 23, 2012 at 9:17 am

Haha, this is fabulous [a little daring and riskay but fun]! Definitely not food or fitness related, although she did mention “edible delights” ;P

Kait March 23, 2012 at 11:59 am

True (embarrassing) story: one of our massage lotions was my go-to stress snack whenever I needed something sweet senior year of college. Its so darn good and a little nibble would give me just what I needed. Haha

Heather March 23, 2012 at 9:21 am

Janetha – great idea for blog posts with a guest


Kait – excellent work! Simple, effective, and resourceful information !

Kait March 23, 2012 at 12:01 pm

Thanks so much Heather! Glad you liked it. ;)

glidingcalm March 23, 2012 at 9:26 am

HA. I was not expecting this post at all!
I support!

Kait March 23, 2012 at 12:02 pm


Annette@EnjoyYourHealthyLife March 23, 2012 at 10:26 am

Sex is a beautiful, natural thing! Love, love it ;) (but still blushing. Hah)

Kait March 23, 2012 at 12:02 pm

Blushing is 100% allowed. :)

Lisa March 23, 2012 at 1:38 pm

I like this post. A lot. Why is it so taboo in the healthy living blogs to talk about sex? We all need good sexual health too, right!

Kait March 26, 2012 at 2:10 pm

Unfortunately, it’s taboo all over! I’m hoping to change that through my work + studies. Feel free to check out similar posts at yogabeautylife where I write mainly about food + sex. Haha

Amy March 23, 2012 at 2:02 pm

great post…we all have it, so why not talk about it a little to make it more enjoyable? just a part of life…hence me currently being knocked up :)

Kait March 26, 2012 at 2:09 pm

Amen! And congrats on the pregnancy. :)

Sarah @ The Healthy Diva March 23, 2012 at 5:03 pm

This post definitely made me blush a little and learn a lot!

Kait March 26, 2012 at 2:09 pm

Exactly what I like to hear! Thanks Sarah. :)

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