crap. i totally missed the memo.
i got a comment yesterday on my guilt free creamy pasta recipe post and it got the wheels in my little brain turning. thought it would be a good topic for the blog and i want you all to weigh in with your thoughts.
disclaimer: if you are easily triggered with serious talk about food choices and what you eat.. probably skip this post and tune in later for a fun giveaway.
as you may or may not know, i posted a recipe for a creamy, cheesy pasta that was low calorie, low sugar, low sodium and low(er) in fat. i get a huge kick out of creating healthier versions of anything and everything. because the pasta had SO much going on and the title: “creamy cheesy roasted tomato and basil chicken pasta with broccoli” wasn’t very catchy, i went with “guilt free creamy pasta”~ much shorter and explains what it is.
anyway, here is the comment i received:
i wasn’t able to email lisa back because she left an unworking email, but i felt like i should address the comment. this was my reply:
this all happened yesterday, and the topic weighed heavily on my mind for the rest of the night. i want to spew my thoughts, because i am real good at that.
blogging can be a touchy thing. there is a whole spectrum of readers and you never know who will read your post and what they will take from it. i simply blog my thoughts honestly, while trying not to offend folks.. although i am sure it has happened time and again.
i am not saying that others should EVER feel guilty for their own choices, but i do have my own opinion and am not afraid to voice it on my blog. after all, it is my blog and i pride myself on being open, honest and real.
so.. let’s get real!
first of all, i never judge someone or look down on them for their food and fitness choices. why would someone think less of someone else because they eat or exercise differently? that is crazy to me. i have never and will never think more or less of a person based on what they eat or how much or little they choose to exercise. i mentioned this in my no sugar challenge 1 week recap and want to mention it again. while i make my own choices, decisions and goals that i believe are best for me, i don’t necessarily think these are the best decisions for the next guy or gal. we are all individuals and the choices we make are our own and i will never judge you for eating a whole truckload of sugar. i really could not care less if you choose to do that.. i just hope you don’t get a cavity, because those hurt real bad. kapeesh?
i share my own thoughts, goals, challenges and experiences with you simply because i like to share. i believe sharing is caring (right, holly?) and i would hope that at least a few people will benefit from my own personal rambles about what i am doing in my life. that is the drive and motivation behind meals & moves. i love to talk about what is working, what isn’t working, what tastes good, what is fun, what is not.. you get the idea. and i believe you read my blog because you like to read these rambles (at least i hope.)
alright.. moving on.
in blogworld and otherwise (but especially blogworld) it seems that it is a bad thing to prefer eating foods because they are low calorie/carb/fat/whatever. it is common to hear people say you should eat whatever makes you happy whenever you want and you shouldn’t feel bad when and if you want to eat a donut for breakfast. embrace the donut.
i do agree with this to an extent. i believe you definitely should eat what you want when you want. that’s up to you. we make choices of what to eat multiple times a day, day after day after day. but i also believe that you should eat things that fall in line with your own personal goals. if you have a goal to eat clean, lose weight or even to maintain.. you can’t exactly gorge yourself on fettuccini alfredo for dinner each night. it just doesn’t work like that. (and if you have a goal to gain a bunch of weight and muscle, like marshall, then you can eat ten zillion calories day after day…)
i have never been someone who labels food as “good” or “bad”. i have always looked at food as either delicious or not delicious. i never refused to eat something because it was “bad”. ever. i want to throw that out there right up front.. because i know a lot of people have had (or still have) issues with labeling food as good vs. bad. i have never had “fear foods” or foods that i refused to eat because they are “bad”. i want to make it clear that i have never had this type of relationship with food because it probably has a lot to do with the rest of my thoughts.
yes, i have declined eating something because it didn’t fall in line with my eating plans for that day, but that doesn’t mean i think it’s a bad food. it just means that i will have to save that one for free day because eating too much of it would take me further from my goals. i am a very goal-oriented gal and so that’s how i work. others are not (right linds?), it’s a very personal thing. oh, and of course there are times when i have thrown all goals out the window and just ate everything and anything with no regard or goals whatsoever. lots of times, actually. it’s called being human. no, i am not a goal-setting-and-achieving robot.. sorry to burst your bubble.
anyway, the word that brought all these thoughts on: guilt.
i don’t necessarily feel guilty if i go against my clean eating goals and indulge in a high-fat/calorie/sodium/sugar meal. this is something i do quite often, actually. i have always been one to indulge in the most delicious things in life! i love eating out and i have never once counted my calories or restricted myself from truly enjoying my food. when i am on vacation, the only thing i plan is where i am going to eat next. i. love. food.
BUT.. i do get discouraged if it happen to eat a whole pint of ben & jerry’s or a basket full of bread and butter or a plate full of deep fried calamari (you get the idea) when i am trying to stay on track. i have been eating pretty much the same way for the past 2 1/2 years. i “eat clean” 6 days a week and take one free day a week. this is a method i adopted from body for life. it works for me because i am able to stay on track with my goals while still able to have those things i love so much (like a whole pint of ben & jerry’s or a basket full of bread and butter or a plate full of deep fried calamari…) yes, there have been times when i don’t eat this way. during the holidays, while on vacation, immediately after getting married, and a few other times where i just let my 6 days on/1 day off habits go. but for the most part, it’s what i do. it works for me. it is tried and true and i like it. for ME.
there is a lot of taboo about feeling bad about eating foods that ARE high in calories (sometimes labeled as “indulgent”) because there is the movement that we should not label food as good or bad and we should eat whatever we feel like. well, yeah, i agree.. i don’t label food good or bad, but i know that if i eat these indulgent foods day in and day out, i will gain a bunch of weight and none of my clothes will fit and i will be an unhappy camper.
i am not afraid to talk about it. i am not going to sugar coat everything and say “oh, look, i can eat whatever i want! i can eat intuitively and only eat when i am hungry, stop when i am full and eat treats daily in moderation!” because i can’t. and that’s not me. as much as i would love to be the person would could do all that without gaining a bunch of weight and being uncomfortable in my skin, i am not. that metabolism left me about five years ago and i am fairly certain it isn’t coming back. there are days that it is a huge struggle to stay on track with my maintenance goals and other days that it’s just like clockwork. but no matter what day it is, i do have to watch what i eat. i keep an eye on portions. i am mindful of calories. i eat decadent desserts only when i truly want them.. not every single day. i don’t mind this way of life. i like the way i eat. really, i do.
i am not afraid to say that i do make a conscious effort to create recipes that are not indulgent. sure, i have lots of recipes that are by no means healthy! they are delicious and not everything has to be healthy. BUT.. i am passionate about healthifying recipes. i love to do this. it is what i enjoy. i create them and share them so those of you in my same boat can make them and enjoy them as much as i do. that is where the title came from, because this recipe is one that i can eat day in and day out and it’s actually healthy for me and will get me closer to my goals rather than further away from them.
momma b and i have something we talk about a lot: you always make a choice to eat something. take lunch, for example. you can choose to eat the 1200 calorie burrito from a mexican joint or you can choose to eat the 400 calorie burrito made at home. both are delicious. and no matter what you eat, you are going to be full afterward. the taste of the meal is going to be long gone within a few minutes… so why wouldn’t you just eat the lunch from home? food is fuel and if you are eating just because you are hungry and need to get full, then making the healthy choice is a no brainer. when i am making my meal choices and eating simply because it’s time to eat (not because i am eating something fabulous from a delicious restaurant or something like that) then i will always make the choice to eat something healthy. i am going to forget whatever it was i ate shortly after anyway. make sense?
so.. let’s see.. what else?
no, i don’t feel guilty if i eat something that isn’t healthy when it isn’t free day. it happens! but i do feel bad if i have a plan and am working towards a goal and i sabotage my goal by eating a bunch of stuff that isn’t in line with my own personal plan of attack. i should mention that when i DO eat something that is not in line with my plan, i don’t beat myself up. i put it behind me and move forward like it never happened.
i also want to say that eating the way i do is in no way deprivation. i eat delicious meals day in and day out. i LOVE everything i eat. i never eat things i don’t like or don’t want. i have developed such a passion and love for clean eating that it really is what i want and crave. i have that free day in there because i also have a passion and love for foods that fall outside the realm of healthy eating and i would never want to live a life without those things. i have found a healthy balance that works in my everyday diet and i am here to share my thoughts with you.
i hope you don’t think i am dictating that you should eat the same way i do.. because you shouldn’t. do what works for you and have no apologies. i know i don’t.
that’s my story and i’m stickin’ to it.
WOW. that was long!
your turn. give me your thoughts!